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Children & mom NEED to leave abusive husband/dad ~ He has ALL the money!

mom24gr8kids started this conversation
Jun 11, 2007

Hi,

I am a mom to 2 daughters who are not in school yet.  I would add a pic but afraid someone my husband knows would see this and then I would be in deep trouble.

I am 39 years old and have been married almost 7 years.  When I married my husband, I was so happy and had only the highest hopes for our family.

A few months after we married, I discovered he has a drinking and gambling problem.  He subsequently became very abusive towards us.  It became physical during my 2nd pregnancy.  I have been working on "fixing" our marriage for years but have finally realized he does not have a good heart and nothing I can do will help.

I am afraid he will kill me when I try to leave but know it's our only chance at a safe future... I am also very concerned about his overtly-sexual behavior towards our daughters. 

He has control over all the money ~ he would never put my name on the bank accounts and won't even let me see what we have in the bank.  I make small amounts of money from odd jobs and am looking for more secure employment.

I know that I need to leave but I have no money.  I need an attorney and a small amount to reloacte if necessary.  I'm worried about the attorney most of all because he has told me repeatedly that if I try to leave him, he will ruin me and take the children.  I believe he will try because he has destroyed my property out of anger when I don't do what he wants.

If anyone could help my children and I, I would be forever grateful and am willing to do whatever it takes to get my children into a safe and stable home.

thank you so much ~

mom24gr8kids

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Keepyahandsoffme
Nov 21, 2011
Im sorry that u goin there this i have two sons and a daughter im 27 ans been goin there left once and returned and now i cant take anymore my childern are unhappy and so im i have took enough beating and im done i sayif u dont have the money find a batterd shelter and go they wi provide everything u need i been there imready to go back butbeen saving so im goinfaraway
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mamashe/sheshe
Jul 10, 2009

Reply to mom24gr8kids:---What in the name of God are you thinking? Your concerned about his overly sexual behavior to your daughters? You don't have time to make any more money, you don't have time to even pack all your stuff. You need to get on the phone or the computer and find the nearest shelter for women and children you can find. You have to get your babies away from that animal. How do you know if he hasn't already harmed them? There is no way he could get your kids nor does he want them, he is just calling your bluff because moms will do anything to protect their kids. Don't let him take your power away and the only way your going to regain it is to leave. There are an abundant amount of resources available to moms like you but you have to make the first move and get your kids out of that house today. Please don't wait until it's to late and he does abuse one of your babys. I don't know of any womans shelter that would not help you if you tell them what you just told us. The ball is in your court now, either you wait and try to get some money or you take what you can carry and leave now. I support you you in your struggle but please don't let your kids stay there one more night. I do wish you the very best and will be praying for you and yor kids. sincerely sheshe030

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Amgardnicholas
Jul 10, 2009
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katekaboom1
Mar 5, 2009

o my gosh! did you say you fear that your man is looking at your babies in an inappropriate manner.

you had better toughen up and pick up and go to your local ywca ang get into there house now.

it is what you have to do . let me ask you this is what would you do if that punkass man put his hands on your babies would you still fear him or will you become that tiger protecting thoese cubs.

i am myself a 12 yr abbuse case and he hit me with a hammer

so dont tell me you cant because you can restraining order/police everytime he comes near you .get it together here your the only one who can save you in the heat of the moment.

do what you have to do !!!!

start yesterday

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pickle1
Mar 13, 2008

i will pray for you.

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dallys
Oct 31, 2007

HI MY NAME IS DALLY FOR NOT SAYING MY REAL NAME IF YOU WANT HELP I CAN HELP U I KNOW I DONT KNOW U IS OK I WAS IN THE SAME SITUATION AS U TO LEAVE U DONT NEED MONEY OR ANYTHING IF U WANT ME AND MY FAMILY WILL HELP U AND YOURE 2 GIRLS U NEED TO SEND ME AND E-MAIL SAW CAN KNOW WERE U AT U CAN CONTACT AT SANABRIADAMARIS@YAHOO.COM I READ MY E-MAILS EEVRY DAY SEND OK GET IN CONTACT WITH MEOK DALLY GOD BLESS U.

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